How many times in life do we just say yes, when we really mean no?
Maybe we don't want to hurt someone's feelings...
Maybe we think it's kinder to say yes...
Maybe we are tired and just don't have the energy to handle it right now, so we say yes....
Maybe we are a 'good person,' so of course we say yes...
Maybe we think we are doing someone a favor....
There are so many reasons and excuses we can use to justify why we say yes.
But what is the cost?
When it's easier to say yes to staying in an un-loving relationship....
When it's easier to say yes to other's needs before our own (because we are a kind, caring, good person)....
The cost is our life.
Literally, the entire time we are living here on earth and we are saying yes to someone and something else. who is saying yes to us?
Who is actually living the life we dream about?
For me saying yes comes at to great a price and there is far more power in saying no.
Saying no to what doesn't light us up.
Saying no to what doesn't bring us joy.
Saying no to people and situations that seem to bring out the worst in us (and saying yes to those who inspire us to be our best).
Watch more here on last week's Friday at Five
Death is a funny thing. Many people will avoid the topic, deny it, ignore it and flat out pretend it doesn’t exist. And then when it happens - and it will find each and every one of us - people are shocked and some will spiral further into disbelief and denial.
The focus will be on how we didn’t want death to happen, regret over things unsaid and time together not spent, frustration, anger, and sadness at not being able to do anything to change what’s happened (and bring someone back to life).
We remember the good times and forget the bad. We glorify the memory and wish that we could have had more time.
But the harsh truth is that if we had had more time, we likely wouldn’t have spent more time together. We would have probably continued on with our same routine and habits, making the daily tasks and to do’s more important.
Now if we had notice - like if we know someone is terminal with cancer, that usually changes things. We know that our time together is short and we make the time to spend together.
The reality is all of us are dying. Every single one of us is dying a little more every day. It’s just that the majority of us don’t come with an expiration date for all to see.
This month marks the one year anniversary of my sister’s sudden passing. I will never forget that day - where I was, receiving multiple phone calls from my mother, and my mother’s heart-wrenching screams as she yelled,“she’s dead!”
Those moments will forever be etched in my memory. And I know that if I had known my sister was dying on that day one year ago, I would not change a single thing. I’ve had enough experience with death to make life a priority. People and experiences take priority over tasks and to do’s.
Rather than focus on a situation that I am powerless to change, I choose to celebrate the memory of lives that were lived. I know that those who passed would not want me to stop living, simply because they did.
I have a tradition of honoring those who died with doing something they enjoyed while they were living. It makes me happy to remember the person they were and celebrate them in a way I know they would enjoy.
Life is short. Embrace the now. Take the time to play. Celebrate with those you love while they are living.
People will say that I have a blessed life, or that they are jealous of my life. This comment always makes me reflect - would people really want to trade places? I have experienced more death and loss in one year than many people experience in their entire life.
All this loss and death has helped me to shift my perspective into making the most of my time here. I don’t have time or energy to focus on the petty and the drama. I am here to live and to experience what is available on this beautiful planet.
This last year has been especially difficult, and I’ve experienced some of the highest of high’s with some of the lowest of low’s. It has been a year of change, transitions, letting go and moving on.
I invite you to share in the next phase of this journey with me. I am excited by what is being created, revealed and am so looking forward to sharing that with the world.
I recently launched a new program, Relationships Re-Imagined, using my psychic abilities to partner with what you are looking to create or change about the relationships in your own life.
Most people seeking a psychic reading were interested in knowing more about relationships - creating one, ending one, changing one - and it makes sense. We cannot go through this life without being in a relationship, in one form or another. And I know that I would not have made it through these last few years if it weren’t for the nurturing, loving support I received from the relationships in my own life.
You may click here to learn more, or if you are already thinking of this could work for your life, let’s chat!
I’ve recently launched a series on my YouTube channel called Friday at Five. Every Friday at 5:00P EST I’ll be discussing an aspect of relationships. Check out the first episode here - Why Marriage is a Relationship’s Death Sentence.
Have a topic you want to be discussed or a problem you want an outsider’s point of view on, shoot me an email and I’ll work it into the series.
I tried to fit in to this reality; I did everything I was 'supposed' to do: went to college, got a job, bought a house. And I was absolutely miserable. It was went I lost everything that I found the greatest gift. I found myself. I went back to my roots and explored all things 'hooey,' weird, and 'out there.' I embraced my psychic gifts and started using my intuition again, which allowed me to re-discover the magic and mystery that does exist in this life (when we are brave enough to embrace it).